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Celia Rodríguez Ruiz. Clinical health psychologist. Specialist in pedagogy and child and youth psychology. Director of Education and Learn. Author of the collection Stimulate Reading and Writing Processes.
Stressful times, emotions on the surface
The expectation for gifts, the experience of Christmas symbols, family dinners and meals, the kisses and hugs of family, friends and loved ones, the parade of kings ... are the many events that can generate intense emotions at Christmas. The most common are these:
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Even when Angels of God appear, people God loves have doubts. Act badly. Zechariah didn't show up to greet Mary. He isn't even recorded. When Zechariah finally connects all that has happened to him, Mary isn't there. Human growth isn't necessarily seen. It's doubtful they wrote each other off as they experienced their Christmas. Hope for each other.
1. Joy and illusion for the reunion with the family, for the motions, etc.
Herod was playing Joy and Illusion. This didn't go well for his family and his mind. Or those around him. The Old Testament records what we wouldn't today want to sing from the rooftops. Yet, the Message of Christmas and the Old Testament is a "Come as you are Prayer Life." If we can't be honest with God who we are, we are truly stuck and frozen. Unable to grow into His Light. God knew Aaron would come in as a Holy Priest and make a mess. God knew this of Abraham and the Disciples of Jesus.
2. Sadness due to absences, When a family member can no longer be with us, the children also experience sadness.
Jesus knew sadness when John the Baptist died, even if they had some words as John the Baptist faced death. The feeding of the Multitudes and Jesus going to pray was probably Jesus giving John the Baptist a Memorial Service. That same part of Scriptures has Jesus raising Peter out of his doubts and the water. Ministry, Two By Two. Share the Ministry.
3. Angered at the break with routines and needs for the routines of children, they get used to doing what they want and when we set limits they get angry. The anger usually contrasts with the positive and idyllic emotions of the moment.
When Jesus and His Brothers got into a, "You think so much of yourself", "If you are so famous go out and be famous, go on" fight or disagreement, this was during one of the High Holy Days of Jesus' Life. Jesus didn't egg them one, but Jesus didn't meet the jab by having His Mouth open and His head say mere words. Jesus gave them the long loose lead rope of you go on.
Proverbs 17:14
The beginning of strife is like letting out water,
so quit before the quarrel breaks out
4. Frustration, when your expectations are not met. Sometimes, we expect many things and do not have what they want or what we want.
Jesus experienced this when the 72 Disciples Left regarding Communion. And Jesus displayed the need to know what Peter would say. Peter had a rare moment when Peter could see the importance of Jesus and could offer support.
5. Jealousy. With other family members and other children of the family appear, sometimes the children may feel jealous because of the attention received by the other children.
Judas is Jealous. Proverbs 27:4 Wrath is cruel, anger is overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy?
6. Apathy, sadness, and discouragement at the endless news and changes while trying to resume the daily routine.
Jesus was seen going across the Sea of Galilee, quite visibly doing His Father' work. A life of Prayer. Diligence, even in the Life Jesus called Joy, was His example. Depression and aging take away the desire to fight to be in Life. Self-control is a gift of His Holy Spirit. To see yourself as ready and prepared, is a Comfort and Teaching of the Holy Spirit.
The emotional contrast characteristic of other times.
Emotions are something natural that emerges in people, both positive and negative. It is normal to experience emotions and all of them fulfill their function. But in the diverse season there is a curious process that affects adults as well as children.
Romans 14:1-23
As for the one who is weak in faith, welcome him, but not to quarrel over opinions. One person believes he may eat anything, while the weak person eats only vegetables. Let not the one who eats despise the one who abstains, and let not the one who abstains pass judgment on the one who eats, for God has welcomed him.
Who are you to pass judgment on the servant of another? It is before his own master that he stands or falls. And he will be upheld, for the Lord is able to make him stand. One person esteems one day as better than another, while another esteems all days alike. Each one should be fully convinced in his own mind.
Proverbs 17:14
The beginning of strife is like letting out water,
so quit before the quarrel breaks
We have very intense emotions and there is often a great emotional contrast and a rollercoaster ride, which can leave us emotionally exhausted.
Jesus knew about stress. He fished. He prayed, He rested. Jesus spoke the truth and was merciful. God calls the Holy Spirit Comfort, Comforter and Teacher.
Negative emotions, are amplified, before the obligation to feel especially good in an idyllic time.
Tips to manage emotions
1. Try to keep your routines. Even if you do different and special things and even if we have celebrations, it is important to maintain certain routines as much as possible. By removing the indicated days or the day that we have a scheduled activity or celebration, we keep (more or less) the schedules of going to bed, meals, etc.
2. Express your emotions and help them express theirs. Emotions are something natural and are part of people. It is good to express them and to name what happens to us inside.
3. Look for activities that help everyone to disconnect and relax like outdoor walks, readings, watch a movie.
4. Remember with joy those who are gone and appreciate who is with us, and help your children remember them like that.
Children of God in Jesus Christ.
5. Pay attention to your jealousy. When there are several children at home, we should try to avoid attitudes on our part that feed jealousy and dedicate time and space to each child. In the case that jealousy appears, sometimes it is inevitable, we will treat it naturally, we will avoid forcing them to repress them.
6. Be patient with everyone these days and do not skimp on signs of affection.
Celia Rodríguez Ruiz. Clinical health psychologist. Specialist in pedagogy and child and youth psychology. Director of Education and Learn. Author of the collection Stimulate Reading and Writing Processes.
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